Just my opinion

Caution – this is just my opinion – you may or may not agree, may be offended or not – but I own it.  You are allowed to comment, I won’t censor if you do not agree with me or if you hurt my feelings – I may tell you but I won’t censor your opinion.

When a person writes an “OPINION” essay and it is published  in a public online magazine it becomes open for discussion.  Some people who write “opinion” pieces become upset or hurt at comments that may be generated from readers who express their own opinion or have questions for the author of the original “OPINION” piece.

Isn’t  one objective of an “OPINION” essay to gather comments and hear what others may have to say?  It may be an opportunity to learn from others who may have a different opinion or to learn a different perspective from those who share the same opinion.

This issue is one that I have faced over and over again with regards to advocating for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Apparently there is a “right” opinion and if your opinion is different than that “right” opinion your comments may be deleted and you may be banned from further discussion.

This censorship only causes harm to those who the so-called advocates are supposedly advocating for.  Without an open discussion regarding various viewpoints people will be isolated and unable to work through problems that may exist.  Ignoring barriers to quality care and efforts to help support people in having a meaningful life only only makes the situation worse.  Unless you live in a fantasy world.

 

 

“Take your opinions elsewhere”

NOS Magazine recently published an opinion piece written by Ivanova Smith regarding the issue of “Mental Age Theory”

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One would think that being a magazine devoted to neurodiversity and open to “publishing opinions from many corners of the neurodiversity community” that censorship and blocking participation from advocates in discussions is counter to the mission.  Apparently, only those neurodiverse in the “right” way are allowed to comment and exchange opinions or answer questions from others.

Saskia Davis, published  her thoughts about the article above on NOS Magazine.  There was a follow-up comment to which Saskia wanted to reply and it was then that she realized that her post had disappeared and her reply was not able to be posted either.

I offered to publish Saskia’s responses on this site because I think they are worthy of being read and understood.  The first comment can be read on Developmental Disabilities Exchange.    The follow up comment is below in this post.

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Responding to: (from Saskia Davis)
Ivanova Smith
September 11, 2017 at 7:25 pm
“I going to share some examples people can to explain their love one support needs that don’t use mental age theory. I some people being asking me for alternatives……..” (http://nosmag.org/mental-age-theory-hurts-people-with-intellectual-disabilities/

I wrote:
“These are helpful suggestions.  How would you help a person understand the level of constant,  total care that is required for the support of someone who lacks the capacity to make safe decisions, lacks verbal ability to express what is wrong, and what s/he wants,  but has enough, almost understandable vocabulary to  frequently repeat the same few phrases,  can’t safely mobilize herself anywhere,  is absolutely distractable, and doesn’t  care to focus on anything except neckties or hats or cars, will choke due to putting food in her or his mouth before swallowing the last bite  if allowed to self feed, except that is impossible because s/he can’t load her own spoon, but can hold a glass and will choke if not dissuaded from laughing during drinking, while self-feeding, gets food all over her/his face,  body and clothes, laughs with delight when something or someone  falls on the floor  and finds it great fun to empty surfaces of their contents to see them fall,  or someone who can carry on a delightful, if limited conversation  but, who, if asked questions  or when another person  wants his food  or when he can’t have food from someone else’s plate, will throw a 20 minute  tantrum just like those that two year olds throw,   (only this person is 6 feet tall and weighs 160 pounds)  hollering, throwing himself on the floor, writhing, kicking screaming, hitting, biting, and who   has been unable to learn to tie his shoes or put them on the correct feet and who remains incontinent at the age of 21 despite many patient years of family members and caregivers’ attempts to help him achieve continence. In few enough words so that the reader or listener will stay engaged to understand the other points you are trying to make, how do you give a picture of such a person that allows another  to understand the intensive level of care  and careful planning for support that is needed and the struggles the person endures in order to make progress?  Thanks in advance for your suggestions.”

 

The title of this post is a quote from Sara Luterman, editor of NOS Magazine in answer to my question regarding removal of my own posts.

Mental Age Theory – Censored

Posting as a follow up to my previous post.  Apparently the editor of NOS Magazine did not approve of the comments that I and another advocate posted.  The comments have been deleted.  I have not received an answer from the editor regarding the reason for deletion.

I have had contact with the author of the article “Mental Age Theory Hurts People with Intellectual Disabilities” and I hope to meet with her and my son in the near future.  This is my attempt at trying to bridge the gap that is present due to what I refer to as “motive asymmetry”

Below is a link to the deleted comments – these are my comments and responses that were deleted.

NOS deleted my comments on mental age Sept 2017