Posting as a follow up to my previous post. Apparently the editor of NOS Magazine did not approve of the comments that I and another advocate posted. The comments have been deleted. I have not received an answer from the editor regarding the reason for deletion.
In trying to describe situations and characteristics we often use similes and metaphors to
help those who are not familiar with jargon understand the situation. When using these
figures of speech, we are in no way belittling the person or saying that person is any less or more than anyone else. These figures of speech are extremely common and are used
throughout all types of writing and speech.
Maybe this is part of the problem with trying to describe a person. When saying that a
“person acts like a toddler ” we are using a simile – it is not saying that person is a toddler at all. It is describing that particular behavior at that particular moment or situation. In the case of my son, his behavior or understanding may not be typical for a 24-year-old in that particular situation.
One could also say that “he is a toddler” which is a metaphor. The simple definition of a
metaphor is that a metaphor states that one thing IS another thing but the statement is not literal – it is just figurative. Many may misinterpret this as the speaker actually saying this is true when in the fact the speaker was using a metaphor.
In the issues of trying to describe the support needs (be it physical, intellectual, behavioral or other) we often need to use similes to help others who are unfamiliar with that person or situation be able to grasp the magnitude of the need. Again, in no way does this figure of speech demean the person being spoken about but can help those understand the level of supports that may be needed to help that person be successful.
One other example of this is referring to a person with progeria as having the body like an old person. The person with progeria is a child but their bodies age prematurely and they have many health issues that are typically seen in the geriatric population. I wonder if people with progeria are offended if they are refered to as having the body of an old person?
Using similes and metaphors as figures of speech is a common and needed practice to help people understand others. We all have reference ideas in our heads about various things.
I’m sorry that people may not understand this issue but that is how the English language
works – it’s not the only confusing thing about this language
I have had contact with the author of the article “Mental Age Theory Hurts People with Intellectual Disabilities” and I hope to meet with her and my son in the near future. This is my attempt at trying to bridge the gap that is present due to what I refer to as “motive asymmetry”
Below is a link to the deleted comments – these are my comments and responses that were deleted.